Hot tempered, how to minimize?

i am a hot blooded person and i could not easily let go of hurts, i have been hurt many times before particularly with men i have no connection with. i have been a victim of cirstances and it left me feeling hurt and angry. I despise men and i hate those who profess affection to me. When i got angry i could not control my mouth and i have the tendency to pysichally hit the one who hurt me. I am tired of this and i want to be free